Oh, love, that's not it! Well. It is, a bit, but not because I don't want her getting the wrong idea about you in particular, more that I don't want her getting the wrong idea about me and relationships and deciding that just because I'm seeing someone means it's something big and permanent and, well, the kind of thing she and Dad had. I can talk her down from that eventually, though, I'm pretty good at managing Mum's expectations by now, or at least better than I was when I was fifteen.
If you wanted to tell her, I can work out a way to do it. It'd be awkward for a bit, but survivable! And besides, I can just blame Dumbledore. I just don't want you to have to deal with setting all the boundaries you'd probably want to set. If you'd find the full force of Mum wanting to mother you to be comforting, then I'm all for telling her. If you'd find it irritating, we should probably wait a bit. Or not tell her at all.
And if we do that, we'll have to watch what we say, because she's good at spotting things. She wrote to me that she's pretty sure Remus isn't the father, because of how he looked when you announced it. (And was implying that she'd almost wondered if Bill could be the father!) I'll show you the message next time I'm down there.
(Which is looking like it might be tonight, actually, if there isn't any disaster. Touch wood.)
Actually, the more I think about it, the more not telling her at all, ever, doesn't seem like it would work. Especially if Baby gets the bad luck of coming out looking like me, Mum will spot it, and then be horribly hurt that we let her find out by herself. But waiting until Baby's born, that we can justify. Especially by blaming Dumbledore.
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Date: 2014-07-02 12:03 am (UTC)Oh, love, that's not it! Well. It is, a bit, but not because I don't want her getting the wrong idea about you in particular, more that I don't want her getting the wrong idea about me and relationships and deciding that just because I'm seeing someone means it's something big and permanent and, well, the kind of thing she and Dad had. I can talk her down from that eventually, though, I'm pretty good at managing Mum's expectations by now, or at least better than I was when I was fifteen.
If you wanted to tell her, I can work out a way to do it. It'd be awkward for a bit, but survivable! And besides, I can just blame Dumbledore. I just don't want you to have to deal with setting all the boundaries you'd probably want to set. If you'd find the full force of Mum wanting to mother you to be comforting, then I'm all for telling her. If you'd find it irritating, we should probably wait a bit. Or not tell her at all.
And if we do that, we'll have to watch what we say, because she's good at spotting things. She wrote to me that she's pretty sure Remus isn't the father, because of how he looked when you announced it. (And was implying that she'd almost wondered if Bill could be the father!) I'll show you the message next time I'm down there.
(Which is looking like it might be tonight, actually, if there isn't any disaster. Touch wood.)
Actually, the more I think about it, the more not telling her at all, ever, doesn't seem like it would work. Especially if Baby gets the bad luck of coming out looking like me, Mum will spot it, and then be horribly hurt that we let her find out by herself. But waiting until Baby's born, that we can justify. Especially by blaming Dumbledore.